"...and then, after 5 years (if you live that long)..."

that's from a song by bjork... it's not a threat or anything.

And as quickly as the explosion happens, it fades. You are left with cleaning up after making some decisions - hopefully you held yourself in check, hopefully you didn't mess things up too badly.

it seems that when you forgive the person who dumped you (but never forget), the lust fades. the terrible driving anger and hurt begins to heal.
you feel used up and fragile.